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Growth is one of life’s great pursuits. Everyone talks about it, everyone desires it, and in one way or another, we are all reaching for it. But here’s the truth: not all growth is good growth.

Some growth looks impressive on the outside but is hollow on the inside. Think of a balloon—it expands quickly, but one prick deflates it. Compare that to an oak tree, which takes years to establish roots, but once it does, it becomes immovable, providing shade, strength, and fruit for generations.

This is the difference between the wrong way to grow and the right way to grow.

The Temptation of Shortcut Growth

In our world today, speed is celebrated. Quick success stories, overnight wealth, instant platforms—they look glamorous. But growth that skips the process rarely lasts. Without the testing, the stretching, and the waiting, we don’t develop the qualities that sustain us when the storms of life come.

We want influence without discipline.
We want money without stewardship.
We want relationships without forgiveness.
We want wisdom without humility.

But God is more concerned with who we are becoming than with how fast we can arrive.

The Beauty of Process

True growth is never just about the end result—it’s about the person we are being shaped into along the way. Every season of waiting, pruning, and pressing is molding something deeper within us:

• Spiritually → Time in prayer and the Word anchors us, not just motivational quotes.

• Emotionally → Facing our wounds and allowing healing produces resilience.

• Financially → Learning stewardship prepares us for abundance.

• Relationally → Walking in love, communication, and forgiveness nurtures trust.

• Mentally → Discipline and humility sharpen our perspective.

When we honor the process, we gain more than outcomes—we gain character. And character is the one thing shortcuts cannot give us.

Fruit That Lasts

The right way to grow is often slower. It’s quieter. It doesn’t always get celebrated immediately. But it builds a foundation strong enough to carry the weight of what God has for us.

This month, I encourage you to examine your journey of growth. Are you chasing the quick way, or are you committed to the right way? Remember, growth that lasts will always come through the process, not around it.

Because when growth comes the right way, it doesn’t just change our circumstances—it transforms us. And that transformation is what truly glorifies God.

The question to carry with you this month:
Am I pursuing fast growth, or growth that’s right?

Let me just tell you what the Holy Spirit whispered to me recently, and it stopped me in my tracks:

“You are the key.”

Whew.

He wasn’t talking about someone else. Not the person who hurt me. Not the one who misunderstood me. Not even the one who walked away.

Me.
You.
Us.

He was showing me how often we give away the pen that writes our story. We hand it to circumstances, to trauma, to other people’s decisions—and we stand in the wings like a background character.

But the truth is: we are the main character. Not in a prideful way, but in the sense that God has entrusted us with the authority, the responsibility, and the power to move forward, heal, and win.

Not every emotion belongs to someone else’s action. Not every delay is someone else’s fault. And not every battle is meant to be fought with blame.

I’m learning that freedom starts when we stop waiting for someone else to come fix it.

The Holy Spirit made it so clear:
“You’re not waiting on anyone. You are the key to your victory.”

That doesn’t mean we don’t need God—no, quite the opposite. It means we partner with Him. We stop playing small. We show up. We own our journey. We stop rehearsing what they did and start declaring who we are.

So this month, I want to invite you to take your power back, not in a loud, revenge-y way. In a gentle, Holy Spirit kind of way. The kind that says:

“I choose to heal.”
“I choose to grow.”
“I choose to take responsibility for my part.”
“I will not hand over the pen anymore.”

Sis, you are not powerless. You are not invisible. You are not stuck.
You are the key.

Walk like it.

Love,
Sheba

 

Sis, let’s talk.

Have you ever found yourself in the middle of July, sun blazing, calendar packed, energy running low, and suddenly realize… you’re just surviving the month, not stewarding it?

Yeah. That.

Let me say it plain: never prepare for July in July.
Why? By the time July arrives, the pace is too fast, the heat is too high, and the margin is too thin.

Life Doesn’t Respond Well to “Winging It”

Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s a time and place for spontaneity. I’m all for a last-minute road trip or a surprise ice cream run. But when it comes to purpose, calling, goals, and peace of mind? Nah. That takes intentionality.

Too many of us are living life in a state of constant reaction, responding to everything and preparing for nothing.

And listen, God didn’t call you to wing it.
He called you to walk in wisdom, to build with strategy, and to move with foresight.

You Don’t Dribble the Ball and Then Learn How to Shoot

Imagine a basketball player waiting until game day to practice. Absurd, right? Yet that’s how many of us live, hoping for a winning shot with no preparation behind it.

July is halftime. It’s the mid-year check-in. And if you wait until July to get your head in the game, you’ll waste the very momentum that was meant to carry you.

You don’t prepare in the middle. You prepare before.

So, What Does Preparation Look Like?

Let me break it down like this:

• Look ahead, not just around.
  Don’t just focus on what’s screaming for your attention today. What’s coming in August, September, and beyond? How can you start setting the tone now? 
• Set rhythms, not just goals.
  Goals are cute, but rhythms sustain you. Don’t just say, “I want to journal more.” Decide when. Don’t just dream of rest, schedule it. 
• Talk to God before you talk to Google.
  Before you plan your next hustle, consult Heaven. Maybe you’re preparing for something that was never yours to carry. 
• Start before it feels perfect.
  Don’t wait for inspiration. Start with what you know. Start with what you have. Start when it’s quiet. Preparation doesn’t require fireworks; it just requires faithfulness. 

July Deserves Your Vision, Not Your Scramble

So the next time July rolls around, don’t let it catch you slipping. Step into it like a woman who has already made up her mind in May. Move like somebody who’s already aligned, already prayed up, already positioned.

And if this July already feels messy, no shame. Start now. Prepare for what’s next. Show up differently for August. That’s the beauty of grace: God lets us reset mid-run.

July isn’t just hot, it’s holy. Treat it like it matters.

Stay ready,
Sheba 🌿

Queen, let’s talk heart-to-heart for a moment.

How many times have we found ourselves disappointed and frustrated because he didn’t show up the way we wanted him to? Maybe he didn’t affirm you. Maybe he didn’t plan the date. Maybe he didn’t text first. Or maybe he just didn’t read your mind (which, let’s be real, we halfway expected him to do).

Now, I’m not saying your needs aren’t valid. You deserve to be seen, pursued, protected, and loved deeply. Absolutely. But sis… are you giving those things to yourself first?

I’ve been there, expecting a man to speak life into me when I hadn’t spoken a kind word to myself in weeks. Expecting him to prioritize me when I wasn’t even prioritizing myself. Wanting him to pour into a cup I hadn’t even bothered to rinse out, let alone fill.

The truth is, we sometimes place an unfair weight on the men in our lives. We ask them to heal wounds they didn’t cause. We expect them to validate what we’re still unsure of. And sometimes, without realizing it, we want them to love us better than we love ourselves.

Let that sink in.

We want someone else to do for us what we won’t take the time, the patience, or the courage to do for ourselves.

But sis, that stops today.

This month, I want to lovingly challenge you:
Before you expect him to show up for you, ask yourself—Have I shown up for me?

Before you get mad that he didn’t plan something special, ask—When was the last time I treated myself to something beautiful, just because I’m worth it?

Before you demand he affirm your beauty, purpose, or value—Do I even believe it?

Because here’s what I know: when you walk in the fullness of your own love, care, and value, you stop demanding it from places that can’t sustain it. And what’s more? The right man will add to what’s already established, not become the foundation of it.

So Queen, let’s make June the month of intentional self-love.
Not spa-day surface love (although go get that massage too!), but deep, soul-nourishing, “I see you, I honor you” kind of love.

Journal. Pray. Set boundaries. Buy the flowers. Rest when you’re tired. Speak life over yourself in the mirror like you mean it. Become the woman who doesn’t just attract love, but embodies it.

You are already enough.
Start living like it.

With all the love,
Sheba

“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” — Proverbs 14:1

We live in a world where “building” is all around us—careers, platforms, families, ministries, relationships. There’s a constant pressure to do more, be more, achieve more. But Scripture brings us back to something raw, something powerful, something timeless: the quiet strength of a wise woman.

Let’s sit with that for a moment.

The wise woman builds.

She builds—not just with bricks and boards, but with her words, her tone, her choices, her prayers, and her silence. She builds with restraint when her flesh wants to lash out. She builds with courage when fear whispers lies. She builds in faith even when the blueprint feels blurry.

But that second part—with her own hands, the foolish one tears hers down—hits differently. It’s not the enemy, not the economy, not “them” over there. It’s her own hands. Her own decisions. Her own unchecked patterns, resentments, and fears.

And that’s sobering… but it’s also liberating.

Because if I have the power to tear it down, I also have the power—by God’s grace—to build it back up.

What Are You Building This Month?

May is a month of blossoming—flowers bloom, light stretches a little longer, and it almost feels like a second New Year. A divine reset. So let me ask you: What are you building? And just as honestly: What might you be unintentionally tearing down?

Are your words to your team building trust… or tearing it?
Are your thoughts toward yourself building confidence… or chipping away at your worth?
Are your boundaries building peace… or letting chaos run free?

This isn’t about perfection. Wise women aren’t flawless—they’re intentional.
They don’t get it right every time, but they slow down long enough to ask, “Is this building or breaking?”

Wisdom Isn’t Loud—But She’s Present

In a culture that glorifies hustle and volume, wisdom doesn’t shout. She nudges.
She whispers in the morning before the emails start flying. She speaks in the middle of a tense meeting, offering the grace to pause. She reminds you to rest, to forgive, to listen, to breathe.

And sometimes, wisdom says: “Let it go—it’s not worth tearing down your peace.”

Build With God

The truth is, none of us is building alone. Every “yes” you say, every tough conversation you navigate, every act of obedience that costs you—it’s not in vain. God sees. And He builds with you.

So this May, let us commit to being women who build.
Brick by brick. Word by word. Step by step.
Not in our own strength, but with the God who makes all things new.

You are not just a woman. You are a wise woman.
Now go build your house.

With grace and grit,
Sheba

There’s a common mindset that asks, “What can others do for me?” But I want to challenge you to flip that question—what can YOU give? What do you have in your hands, your heart, and your life that can bless someone else?

The truth is, generosity is more than an act—it’s a lifestyle. And when we live generously, we leave a lasting mark on the lives of others. Think about it: the people who have impacted you the most were likely those who gave—whether it was their time, their wisdom, their resources, or even just a listening ear.

I’ve seen firsthand how generosity transforms lives. I’ve seen how a simple word of encouragement can reignite hope in someone ready to give up. I’ve witnessed how sharing our resources—whether it’s a meal, a book, or financial support—can lift burdens and open doors of opportunity.

Giving isn’t just about material things. It’s about showing up. It’s about using our gifts to serve others. It’s about being intentional in creating a culture where people feel seen, valued, and loved.

And here’s the beautiful part: generosity doesn’t leave us empty. In fact, it multiplies. When we give, we don’t lose—we gain. We gain joy, fulfillment, and a sense of purpose that no material thing can ever replace. That’s why the Bible reminds us, “It’s more blessed to give than to receive.” Because in giving, we tap into the true essence of abundance.

So today, I encourage you—don’t wait for the perfect moment to give. Start where you are, with what you have. Be the reason someone smiles today. Be the answer to someone’s silent prayer. Be the one who leaves a mark, not because of what you took, but because of what you gave.

Your generosity will not be forgotten. It will echo in the lives you touch long after the moment has passed. And that, my friend, is how we truly make a difference in this world.

With love,

Sheba

 

Picture this: two families decide to build their dream homes. One hires the best contractors, uses high-quality materials, and takes time to ensure a solid foundation. The other rushes the process, cutting corners with cheap materials and ignoring the warning signs of a weak foundation. At first, both houses look great—but when a storm hits, only one survives. Matthew 7:24-28

This isn’t just about houses; it’s about our lives, our relationships, our communities. The strength of anything we build—our faith, careers, friendships, or even businesses—depends on the foundation we lay.

What Are You Building With?

Think about the areas in your life where you’ve tried to take shortcuts. Maybe it’s avoiding the hard conversations in relationships, skipping the self-care you know you need, or neglecting the discipline required to grow spiritually and professionally. It’s easy to focus on the visible—success, titles, appearances—while ignoring the unseen foundation that holds everything together.

High-rise buildings in major cities are impressive, but many crumble under pressure because builders took shortcuts with materials. In the same way, inconsistency, lack of discipline, isolation, and avoidance are weak materials for building a strong life. Sooner or later, cracks will show.

Why Unity Matters

Look at any strong, thriving community, and you’ll see a common thread—unity. Whether in a family, a business, or a movement, success comes when people move together with a shared purpose. You’ve probably experienced this firsthand: when a team is on the same page, things flow. When people are divided, progress stalls.

Imagine trying to build a house where one person lays bricks while another tears them down. That’s what happens when we operate in disunity—whether in friendships, business partnerships, or spiritual communities. Strength isn’t just about standing firm alone; it’s about linking arms with others who are committed to the same vision.

Holding Each Other Accountable

The hardest part of building something strong is consistency. It’s showing up, even when it’s inconvenient. It’s choosing to work through challenges rather than running from them. It’s surrounding yourself with people who won’t let you settle for less than your potential.

A strong foundation isn’t built in a day—it’s built daily. Every choice we make, every habit we form, and every relationship we nurture contributes to the strength of the house we’re building. And when storms come (because they will), we’ll see if what we’ve built can stand.

Final Thoughts

Take a moment to reflect: What are you building? What materials are you using? Who are you building with?

A house built on discipline, integrity, faith, and unity will stand the test of time. But a house built on shortcuts, isolation, and inconsistency is bound to collapse.

The choice is yours—what will your house stand on?

The Benefits of Relationships vs. The Illusion of Entitlement

Relationships are one of the greatest gifts we experience in life. Whether it’s family, friendships, mentorships, or romantic partnerships, meaningful relationships add depth, joy, and support to our journey. However, there is a fine line between appreciating the benefits of relationships and falling into the trap of entitlement. Understanding this difference can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections with those around us.

The Blessings of Relationships

Healthy relationships bring numerous benefits, including emotional support, companionship, personal growth, and shared experiences. When we cultivate meaningful relationships, we gain a sense of belonging and encouragement in both our triumphs and challenges. Relationships teach us patience, selflessness, and the value of giving as much as we receive.

Moreover, relationships provide a framework for accountability and growth. They refine our character, help us develop communication skills, and teach us the power of forgiveness and grace. Every interaction has the potential to enrich our lives in ways we may not even realize in the moment.

The Danger of Entitlement

Entitlement, on the other hand, distorts the beauty of relationships by introducing unrealistic expectations. It is the belief that we are owed something simply because we exist or because of our role in someone’s life. This mindset can manifest in many ways: expecting love without effort, demanding respect without earning it, or assuming others should cater to our needs without reciprocity.

The truth is, nobody owes us anything—except love, as the Bible reminds us. Romans 13:8 states, “Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.” Love is the only true debt we have toward one another, and even that is a choice, not a demand. Real love is given freely, not coerced.

A Biblical Case Study: The Prodigal Son

A powerful biblical example of entitlement versus relationship is found in the parable of the Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32). The younger son demanded his inheritance, believing he was entitled to it before the appropriate time. He squandered his wealth on reckless living and found himself destitute. When he returned home, humbled and repentant, his father welcomed him with open arms, demonstrating unconditional love.

The older brother, however, exhibited entitlement in a different way—he felt he deserved more because of his loyalty and hard work. His resentment revealed that he had been serving his father with an expectation of reward rather than out of love. This story teaches us that relationships should be built on grace and gratitude rather than entitlement and self-interest.

Shifting from Entitlement to Gratitude

The key to overcoming entitlement is gratitude. Instead of focusing on what we believe we deserve, we should appreciate what we have been given. Relationships thrive when they are built on mutual respect, kindness, and a willingness to give without expecting something in return.

We must also recognize that people are not obligated to meet our needs. Every act of kindness, every moment of support, and every expression of love is a gift. When we shift our mindset to gratitude, we begin to cherish the people in our lives rather than take them for granted.

Biblical Teachings on Relationships and Entitlement

• Philippians 2:3-4 – “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests but also to the interests of others.” This verse reminds us that relationships should be rooted in humility and selflessness rather than entitlement.
• Galatians 6:2 – “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” This verse emphasizes that relationships are meant to be a mutual exchange of care and support.
• 1 Peter 4:8-10 – “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. Show hospitality to one another without grumbling. As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace.” We are called to love and serve one another rather than expecting to be served.

At the heart of it all, relationships should be about love, growth, and mutual care—not about entitlement or unfulfilled expectations. When we enter relationships with an open heart, embracing both the joys and responsibilities that come with them, we create deeper, more meaningful connections.

Let’s choose to approach relationships with humility, appreciation, and love, remembering that the only thing we truly owe one another is to love as Christ loves us.

A hallmark of effective leadership is the ability to challenge one’s perceptions—including thoughts, feelings, and assumptions—and to be receptive to correction. This quality is not just a marker of personal growth but also a gateway to deeper understanding, authentic connections, and transformative change.

In a recent discussion, I found myself engaging with someone who held a starkly different perspective. This interaction became a moment of profound insight. During our conversation, I asked a question that has stayed with me: “Have you ever considered that your thought process might be flawed or fragmented due to limited experience or knowledge?” The intent behind this question was not to undermine their viewpoint but to spark a shared exploration of the blind spots that we all inevitably carry. It was a moment that challenged both of us to step back and reexamine our assumptions.

This encounter served as a powerful reminder of the invaluable role mentorship plays in our lives. A mentor is far more than a teacher or guide; they are a catalyst for growth. They serve as a mirror, reflecting truths that we might struggle to see ourselves. They encourage us to think critically, the courage to question our assumptions, and the wisdom to navigate beyond the limits of our current understanding. Mentorship offers a safe yet stretching space where correction is not a criticism but a gift of transformation.

Without mentorship, we risk becoming captives of our thoughts and perceptions. Left unchecked, these internal narratives can become not only limiting but also damaging—even detrimental—to our personal, professional, and spiritual journeys. Mentorship, therefore, is not optional; it is essential. It acts as a bridge, connecting us from where we are to where we aspire to be, and helping us to cross the chasms of doubt, inexperience, and uncertainty.

As we step into 2025, I want to underscore the critical importance of seeking mentorship as a cornerstone of growth. Mentorship is not a sign of weakness or inadequacy; it is a declaration of your commitment to becoming the best version of yourself. It is an acknowledgment that none of us has all the answers, but through the wisdom of others, we can find clarity and direction.

This year, I encourage you to actively seek mentors who inspire you, challenge you, and provide the constructive feedback necessary for your evolution. Choose mentors who embody the qualities you aspire to cultivate—those whose experiences and insights can illuminate your path forward. And if you find yourself in a position to mentor others, embrace that role with intentionality and grace. Understand that mentorship is not about superiority; it is about mutual enrichment, where both parties learn and grow together.

The ripple effect of a well-guided life is immeasurable. When you invest in mentorship, whether as a mentee or mentor, you contribute to a cycle of growth that extends far beyond yourself. In the words of Proverbs 27:17, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Let this be a year of intentional sharpening—a year where mentorship becomes the foundation of your personal, professional, and spiritual development.

In closing, let us walk into 2025 with a renewed commitment to seek out and embrace mentorship. Whether you are learning from others or imparting wisdom yourself, let this journey be marked by humility, growth, and a shared pursuit of excellence. Together, we can navigate life’s complexities with greater wisdom, clarity, and purpose. 🙏🏾💛

 

Wisdom is a transferable skill—a gift that keeps on giving. It transcends time, generations, and situations, becoming a lifeline when knowledge alone is not enough.

Recently, I found myself faced with a situation that, admittedly, I wasn’t completely equipped to navigate. The details shared with me were intricate and complex. As I sat reflecting, seeking clarity, I felt the Lord speak directly to my heart:

“Wisdom is transferable; but when both wisdom and knowledge are paired together, you become unstoppable!”

This truth resonated deeply. I realized that while knowledge is powerful, it becomes exponentially more impactful when paired with wisdom. Knowledge equips us with facts, information, and understanding, but wisdom provides the discernment to know how to apply it and when to act on it.

Wisdom and Knowledge: A Powerful Partnership

The misconception that knowledge alone is sufficient can often lead to frustration or stagnation. Knowledge without wisdom is like a beautifully constructed boat without a rudder—it may be capable of great things, but without direction, it drifts aimlessly.

When I revisited the discussion with the individual, I had so much more to share—not just answers, but solutions backed by insight. To my surprise, they agreed wholeheartedly with everything I said. Their curiosity about how I “knew what I knew” became a humbling reminder that true wisdom doesn’t always come from experience alone; it is often transferred through divine revelation, mentorship, or reflection.

When Wisdom Stands Alone

In many situations, wisdom can stand alone as a guiding light. It acts as a filter, separating what is essential from what is merely noise. Knowledge, however, cannot always stand on its own. You can possess vast amounts of information, but without the discernment to apply it effectively, its value diminishes. Knowing what to do is important, but knowing when and how to do it is invaluable.

For example:

• You may know all the strategies for conflict resolution (knowledge), but wisdom teaches you when to speak and when to listen.
• You might be highly skilled in leadership techniques, but wisdom allows you to discern which approach works best for each unique individual or circumstance.

Without wisdom, knowledge risks becoming stagnant—a well of information left unused.

The Application of Wisdom

Wisdom is actionable. It empowers you to apply what you know effectively, with precision and care. It is both a shield and a tool. Wisdom helps you navigate challenges, build meaningful relationships, and make decisions that have lasting impact. It transforms ordinary conversations into opportunities for growth and understanding.

And here’s the beautiful part: wisdom is not hoarded—it is shared. When we embrace wisdom, we become vessels through which it flows into the lives of others, helping them navigate their own paths.

Conclusion: A Timeless Lesson

Wisdom truly is the gift that keeps on giving. It is transferable, generative, and transformative. When paired with knowledge, it makes us unstoppable—able to discern, apply, and grow in ways we could never accomplish through knowledge alone.

So, as you face the intricate situations of life, remember this: pursue knowledge, but seek wisdom. Lean into the moments of reflection and prayer. Let wisdom be your rudder, your guide, and your voice in moments of uncertainty. It is a gift not just for you, but for those around you.

Because wisdom is never wasted. It is shared. It is applied. And it keeps on giving.

“For wisdom is more precious than rubies, and nothing you desire can compare with her.” – Proverbs 8:11