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I’m a word lover! Anyone who knows me knows I will stop mid-sentence to look up a definition, because words carry worlds, and sometimes one simple meaning can shift an entire perspective. Lately, one word has been holding me, stirring me, teaching me: ‘meaningful’, full of meaning.

This month, I’ve been asking myself: How do I show up for life, and how do I show up for the people I love, in a truly meaningful way? Because if we’re honest, at the end of the day, that’s all that really matters.

December is beautiful, but it can also be heavy. Some people smile through pain no one ever sees. Others pour so much into everyone else that they, too, need to be poured into, a reminder that they matter, that they are seen, that their existence makes the world brighter.

My mother taught me an acronym that has stayed with me all my life: G.I.F.T.: Get It FOR Them.

Not what you think they should have. Not what you prefer. But what they want, need, love, or long for. A gift tuned to them. And truth be told, this reaches far beyond presents under a tree.

Sometimes “getting it for them” looks like:

Making room in your schedule instead of squeezing someone into leftover time

Listening with your heart, not just with your ears

Showing up the way they receive love, not the way you’re used to giving it

Offering grace, patience, or presence, the things no store can wrap

Meaningful isn’t grand. Meaningful is intentional. It’s personal. It’s love that pays attention.

So this December, can we make a collective decision to show up fully, not halfway?

To be the reason someone feels valued?

To honor those who give endlessly and uplift those who suffer silently?

Because the world truly wouldn’t be the same without them, or without you.

Let’s be meaningful.

Let’s live meaningfully.

Let’s love meaningfully.

After all… that is the real gift.

Sheba

Tell me this is my offspring without telling me 

But on a more serious note… if you’re a parent, you can relate.

So, picture this, I decided to get up EARLY (yes, capital letters early) to prepare myself before the house woke up. You know that precious window of peace before the chaos begins? That time when the birds are singing, the coffee is hot, and you actually believe you’ll get through your to-do list? Yeah… that time.

And then, MADNESS. Whew, These Kids, like how I thought I Would Be The Rich Auntie, but I digress

Anyway, back to the story. I was in the shower, my sacred quiet time of reflection, prayer, thanksgiving, and all those wonderful grown-up moments that help you feel centered again.

Then I heard a knock at the door.

Now, here’s the part that made me proud: I said, “Who is it?” and instead of just barging in like the old days, a little voice on the other side of the door said, “It’s me!” 

Aha! The privacy lessons are working. We’re growing, y’all!

But in that small moment, something deeper hit me.

Those two little words—“It’s me”—stayed in my spirit.

I thought, when I knock on The Door and say to God, “It’s me!”… does He recognize my voice instantly because we’ve spent time together, because we talk often, not just when I’m in a bind?

Or do I just assume He knows me because, well, He’s God, duh?

That simple moment in the bathroom turned into a gentle heart check. Do I speak with Him so regularly that there’s familiarity, that intimacy that comes with being known?

Because that’s what a relationship looks like. It’s not just me calling on Him when life gets wild, but also in those quiet, in-between, ordinary moments when no one’s watching.

The Bible says in John 10: 27–28 (KJV):

“My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me:
And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.”

He knows our voice, and He desires for us to know His.

So the next time you whisper, “It’s me,” in the car, in the shower, in the middle of the madness, remember, He knows exactly who me is.

Sheba.

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about perspective.  How much it shapes our lives, and how different everything looks when we choose to see it the way God does.

We all go through moments that make us question, worry, or wonder, “Why this? Why now?” But what if, instead of reacting from fear or frustration, we took a step back and asked, “God, what are You showing me through this?”

That one question changes everything.

When we begin to see life through God’s eyes, we stop looking at things as random or meaningless. We start to recognize that even in the most uncomfortable moments, God is still working, still moving pieces into place, still turning things for good, still writing a story that will make sense later.

Learning to See Differently

I’m learning that God’s perspective isn’t about pretending everything is fine. It’s about trusting that there’s purpose in every season.

What looks like a closed door might be His protection.
What feels like a delay might actually be divine timing.
What feels like loss could be making space for something better.

When you see as God sees, you stop fighting every change. You stop comparing your path to someone else’s. You stop calling things “bad” before you’ve even seen what God will do with them.

It’s not easy, but it’s freeing.

Every Challenge Is an Opportunity

I’ve walked through seasons that made no sense at the time. Times I prayed for open doors and heard silence. Times I thought I had failed when really, God was just redirecting me.

Looking back, I can honestly say: every challenge was an opportunity for God to show Himself strong.

He never wastes pain. He never forgets His promises. And when we choose to look through His eyes, eyes that see victory before the battle even begins,  it changes how we show up.

You start to wake up expecting good things. You stop being so afraid of what’s ahead. You start to see your life, not as a collection of problems, but as a series of moments where God can move.

Choosing Heaven’s View

Faith is a kind of sight. It’s not ignoring what’s in front of you, but rather,  it’s seeing beyond it. It’s believing that even when life looks messy, God still has a plan, and His view is much higher than ours.

When you live from that place, you stop needing all the answers. You stop panicking when things don’t go your way. You rest more. You breathe easier.

That’s the peace that comes from seeing through His eyes.

My Prayer This Month

As we step into October, my prayer is simple:

“Lord, help me to see what You see.
Help me to see the beauty, the lessons, and the victory hidden in every situation.”

If you can hold on to that, it changes the way you move through life. You begin to see blessings where you used to see burdens. You begin to see growth where you once only saw loss. And you begin to live with quiet confidence that no matter what happens.  God’s got this.

Because from His point of view, victory isn’t coming; it’s already done.

Sheba

Growth is one of life’s great pursuits. Everyone talks about it, everyone desires it, and in one way or another, we are all reaching for it. But here’s the truth: not all growth is good growth.

Some growth looks impressive on the outside but is hollow on the inside. Think of a balloon—it expands quickly, but one prick deflates it. Compare that to an oak tree, which takes years to establish roots, but once it does, it becomes immovable, providing shade, strength, and fruit for generations.

This is the difference between the wrong way to grow and the right way to grow.

The Temptation of Shortcut Growth

In our world today, speed is celebrated. Quick success stories, overnight wealth, instant platforms—they look glamorous. But growth that skips the process rarely lasts. Without the testing, the stretching, and the waiting, we don’t develop the qualities that sustain us when the storms of life come.

We want influence without discipline.
We want money without stewardship.
We want relationships without forgiveness.
We want wisdom without humility.

But God is more concerned with who we are becoming than with how fast we can arrive.

The Beauty of Process

True growth is never just about the end result—it’s about the person we are being shaped into along the way. Every season of waiting, pruning, and pressing is molding something deeper within us:

• Spiritually → Time in prayer and the Word anchors us, not just motivational quotes.

• Emotionally → Facing our wounds and allowing healing produces resilience.

• Financially → Learning stewardship prepares us for abundance.

• Relationally → Walking in love, communication, and forgiveness nurtures trust.

• Mentally → Discipline and humility sharpen our perspective.

When we honor the process, we gain more than outcomes—we gain character. And character is the one thing shortcuts cannot give us.

Fruit That Lasts

The right way to grow is often slower. It’s quieter. It doesn’t always get celebrated immediately. But it builds a foundation strong enough to carry the weight of what God has for us.

This month, I encourage you to examine your journey of growth. Are you chasing the quick way, or are you committed to the right way? Remember, growth that lasts will always come through the process, not around it.

Because when growth comes the right way, it doesn’t just change our circumstances—it transforms us. And that transformation is what truly glorifies God.

The question to carry with you this month:
Am I pursuing fast growth, or growth that’s right?

Let me just tell you what the Holy Spirit whispered to me recently, and it stopped me in my tracks:

“You are the key.”

Whew.

He wasn’t talking about someone else. Not the person who hurt me. Not the one who misunderstood me. Not even the one who walked away.

Me.
You.
Us.

He was showing me how often we give away the pen that writes our story. We hand it to circumstances, to trauma, to other people’s decisions—and we stand in the wings like a background character.

But the truth is: we are the main character. Not in a prideful way, but in the sense that God has entrusted us with the authority, the responsibility, and the power to move forward, heal, and win.

Not every emotion belongs to someone else’s action. Not every delay is someone else’s fault. And not every battle is meant to be fought with blame.

I’m learning that freedom starts when we stop waiting for someone else to come fix it.

The Holy Spirit made it so clear:
“You’re not waiting on anyone. You are the key to your victory.”

That doesn’t mean we don’t need God—no, quite the opposite. It means we partner with Him. We stop playing small. We show up. We own our journey. We stop rehearsing what they did and start declaring who we are.

So this month, I want to invite you to take your power back, not in a loud, revenge-y way. In a gentle, Holy Spirit kind of way. The kind that says:

“I choose to heal.”
“I choose to grow.”
“I choose to take responsibility for my part.”
“I will not hand over the pen anymore.”

Sis, you are not powerless. You are not invisible. You are not stuck.
You are the key.

Walk like it.

Love,
Sheba

 

Sis, let’s talk.

Have you ever found yourself in the middle of July, sun blazing, calendar packed, energy running low, and suddenly realize… you’re just surviving the month, not stewarding it?

Yeah. That.

Let me say it plain: never prepare for July in July.
Why? By the time July arrives, the pace is too fast, the heat is too high, and the margin is too thin.

Life Doesn’t Respond Well to “Winging It”

Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s a time and place for spontaneity. I’m all for a last-minute road trip or a surprise ice cream run. But when it comes to purpose, calling, goals, and peace of mind? Nah. That takes intentionality.

Too many of us are living life in a state of constant reaction, responding to everything and preparing for nothing.

And listen, God didn’t call you to wing it.
He called you to walk in wisdom, to build with strategy, and to move with foresight.

You Don’t Dribble the Ball and Then Learn How to Shoot

Imagine a basketball player waiting until game day to practice. Absurd, right? Yet that’s how many of us live, hoping for a winning shot with no preparation behind it.

July is halftime. It’s the mid-year check-in. And if you wait until July to get your head in the game, you’ll waste the very momentum that was meant to carry you.

You don’t prepare in the middle. You prepare before.

So, What Does Preparation Look Like?

Let me break it down like this:

• Look ahead, not just around.
  Don’t just focus on what’s screaming for your attention today. What’s coming in August, September, and beyond? How can you start setting the tone now? 
• Set rhythms, not just goals.
  Goals are cute, but rhythms sustain you. Don’t just say, “I want to journal more.” Decide when. Don’t just dream of rest, schedule it. 
• Talk to God before you talk to Google.
  Before you plan your next hustle, consult Heaven. Maybe you’re preparing for something that was never yours to carry. 
• Start before it feels perfect.
  Don’t wait for inspiration. Start with what you know. Start with what you have. Start when it’s quiet. Preparation doesn’t require fireworks; it just requires faithfulness. 

July Deserves Your Vision, Not Your Scramble

So the next time July rolls around, don’t let it catch you slipping. Step into it like a woman who has already made up her mind in May. Move like somebody who’s already aligned, already prayed up, already positioned.

And if this July already feels messy, no shame. Start now. Prepare for what’s next. Show up differently for August. That’s the beauty of grace: God lets us reset mid-run.

July isn’t just hot, it’s holy. Treat it like it matters.

Stay ready,
Sheba 🌿

Queen, let’s talk heart-to-heart for a moment.

How many times have we found ourselves disappointed and frustrated because he didn’t show up the way we wanted him to? Maybe he didn’t affirm you. Maybe he didn’t plan the date. Maybe he didn’t text first. Or maybe he just didn’t read your mind (which, let’s be real, we halfway expected him to do).

Now, I’m not saying your needs aren’t valid. You deserve to be seen, pursued, protected, and loved deeply. Absolutely. But sis… are you giving those things to yourself first?

I’ve been there, expecting a man to speak life into me when I hadn’t spoken a kind word to myself in weeks. Expecting him to prioritize me when I wasn’t even prioritizing myself. Wanting him to pour into a cup I hadn’t even bothered to rinse out, let alone fill.

The truth is, we sometimes place an unfair weight on the men in our lives. We ask them to heal wounds they didn’t cause. We expect them to validate what we’re still unsure of. And sometimes, without realizing it, we want them to love us better than we love ourselves.

Let that sink in.

We want someone else to do for us what we won’t take the time, the patience, or the courage to do for ourselves.

But sis, that stops today.

This month, I want to lovingly challenge you:
Before you expect him to show up for you, ask yourself—Have I shown up for me?

Before you get mad that he didn’t plan something special, ask—When was the last time I treated myself to something beautiful, just because I’m worth it?

Before you demand he affirm your beauty, purpose, or value—Do I even believe it?

Because here’s what I know: when you walk in the fullness of your own love, care, and value, you stop demanding it from places that can’t sustain it. And what’s more? The right man will add to what’s already established, not become the foundation of it.

So Queen, let’s make June the month of intentional self-love.
Not spa-day surface love (although go get that massage too!), but deep, soul-nourishing, “I see you, I honor you” kind of love.

Journal. Pray. Set boundaries. Buy the flowers. Rest when you’re tired. Speak life over yourself in the mirror like you mean it. Become the woman who doesn’t just attract love, but embodies it.

You are already enough.
Start living like it.

With all the love,
Sheba

“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” — Proverbs 14:1

We live in a world where “building” is all around us—careers, platforms, families, ministries, relationships. There’s a constant pressure to do more, be more, achieve more. But Scripture brings us back to something raw, something powerful, something timeless: the quiet strength of a wise woman.

Let’s sit with that for a moment.

The wise woman builds.

She builds—not just with bricks and boards, but with her words, her tone, her choices, her prayers, and her silence. She builds with restraint when her flesh wants to lash out. She builds with courage when fear whispers lies. She builds in faith even when the blueprint feels blurry.

But that second part—with her own hands, the foolish one tears hers down—hits differently. It’s not the enemy, not the economy, not “them” over there. It’s her own hands. Her own decisions. Her own unchecked patterns, resentments, and fears.

And that’s sobering… but it’s also liberating.

Because if I have the power to tear it down, I also have the power—by God’s grace—to build it back up.

What Are You Building This Month?

May is a month of blossoming—flowers bloom, light stretches a little longer, and it almost feels like a second New Year. A divine reset. So let me ask you: What are you building? And just as honestly: What might you be unintentionally tearing down?

Are your words to your team building trust… or tearing it?
Are your thoughts toward yourself building confidence… or chipping away at your worth?
Are your boundaries building peace… or letting chaos run free?

This isn’t about perfection. Wise women aren’t flawless—they’re intentional.
They don’t get it right every time, but they slow down long enough to ask, “Is this building or breaking?”

Wisdom Isn’t Loud—But She’s Present

In a culture that glorifies hustle and volume, wisdom doesn’t shout. She nudges.
She whispers in the morning before the emails start flying. She speaks in the middle of a tense meeting, offering the grace to pause. She reminds you to rest, to forgive, to listen, to breathe.

And sometimes, wisdom says: “Let it go—it’s not worth tearing down your peace.”

Build With God

The truth is, none of us is building alone. Every “yes” you say, every tough conversation you navigate, every act of obedience that costs you—it’s not in vain. God sees. And He builds with you.

So this May, let us commit to being women who build.
Brick by brick. Word by word. Step by step.
Not in our own strength, but with the God who makes all things new.

You are not just a woman. You are a wise woman.
Now go build your house.

With grace and grit,
Sheba

There’s a common mindset that asks, “What can others do for me?” But I want to challenge you to flip that question—what can YOU give? What do you have in your hands, your heart, and your life that can bless someone else?

The truth is, generosity is more than an act—it’s a lifestyle. And when we live generously, we leave a lasting mark on the lives of others. Think about it: the people who have impacted you the most were likely those who gave—whether it was their time, their wisdom, their resources, or even just a listening ear.

I’ve seen firsthand how generosity transforms lives. I’ve seen how a simple word of encouragement can reignite hope in someone ready to give up. I’ve witnessed how sharing our resources—whether it’s a meal, a book, or financial support—can lift burdens and open doors of opportunity.

Giving isn’t just about material things. It’s about showing up. It’s about using our gifts to serve others. It’s about being intentional in creating a culture where people feel seen, valued, and loved.

And here’s the beautiful part: generosity doesn’t leave us empty. In fact, it multiplies. When we give, we don’t lose—we gain. We gain joy, fulfillment, and a sense of purpose that no material thing can ever replace. That’s why the Bible reminds us, “It’s more blessed to give than to receive.” Because in giving, we tap into the true essence of abundance.

So today, I encourage you—don’t wait for the perfect moment to give. Start where you are, with what you have. Be the reason someone smiles today. Be the answer to someone’s silent prayer. Be the one who leaves a mark, not because of what you took, but because of what you gave.

Your generosity will not be forgotten. It will echo in the lives you touch long after the moment has passed. And that, my friend, is how we truly make a difference in this world.

With love,

Sheba

 

Picture this: two families decide to build their dream homes. One hires the best contractors, uses high-quality materials, and takes time to ensure a solid foundation. The other rushes the process, cutting corners with cheap materials and ignoring the warning signs of a weak foundation. At first, both houses look great—but when a storm hits, only one survives. Matthew 7:24-28

This isn’t just about houses; it’s about our lives, our relationships, our communities. The strength of anything we build—our faith, careers, friendships, or even businesses—depends on the foundation we lay.

What Are You Building With?

Think about the areas in your life where you’ve tried to take shortcuts. Maybe it’s avoiding the hard conversations in relationships, skipping the self-care you know you need, or neglecting the discipline required to grow spiritually and professionally. It’s easy to focus on the visible—success, titles, appearances—while ignoring the unseen foundation that holds everything together.

High-rise buildings in major cities are impressive, but many crumble under pressure because builders took shortcuts with materials. In the same way, inconsistency, lack of discipline, isolation, and avoidance are weak materials for building a strong life. Sooner or later, cracks will show.

Why Unity Matters

Look at any strong, thriving community, and you’ll see a common thread—unity. Whether in a family, a business, or a movement, success comes when people move together with a shared purpose. You’ve probably experienced this firsthand: when a team is on the same page, things flow. When people are divided, progress stalls.

Imagine trying to build a house where one person lays bricks while another tears them down. That’s what happens when we operate in disunity—whether in friendships, business partnerships, or spiritual communities. Strength isn’t just about standing firm alone; it’s about linking arms with others who are committed to the same vision.

Holding Each Other Accountable

The hardest part of building something strong is consistency. It’s showing up, even when it’s inconvenient. It’s choosing to work through challenges rather than running from them. It’s surrounding yourself with people who won’t let you settle for less than your potential.

A strong foundation isn’t built in a day—it’s built daily. Every choice we make, every habit we form, and every relationship we nurture contributes to the strength of the house we’re building. And when storms come (because they will), we’ll see if what we’ve built can stand.

Final Thoughts

Take a moment to reflect: What are you building? What materials are you using? Who are you building with?

A house built on discipline, integrity, faith, and unity will stand the test of time. But a house built on shortcuts, isolation, and inconsistency is bound to collapse.

The choice is yours—what will your house stand on?