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Check on Your Friends: The Life-Saving Priority We Often Overlook

Recently, I learned of a family friend who passed away alone in his apartment, only discovered days after he went missing. Some said they hadn’t spoken to him in over a week. The news hit me like a ton of bricks. But my initial response? Gratitude.

Now, before you jump to conclusions, let me explain.

I’m blessed with a handful of solid, close friends. These are people I connect with regularly—honestly, most of the time, it’s daily. That might sound excessive to some, but for me, it’s everything. Staying connected to my “peeps” is a non-negotiable priority. They’re at the top of my list, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

“We Haven’t Missed a Beat” — Really?

Not long ago, I saw a Facebook post where someone proudly shared how they hadn’t spoken to a close friend in months—sometimes years—and yet, their bond was “untouched.”

I’m sorry (but also not sorry)—I can’t subscribe to that mindset. If I haven’t spoken to someone I call a friend in months or years, are we really still friends? Whoever started that trend of “no communication friendships” needs a serious wake-up call.

Relationships aren’t autopilot machines—they require effort, consistency, and intentionality. Whether it’s family, friends, or romantic partnerships, connections demand work. There are no shortcuts. No ifs, ands, or buts. And I stand firm on this.

Not on My Watch

Here’s the thing: My friend could never be missing, let alone passed on, without me knowing for days or weeks. That simply wouldn’t happen. If I didn’t hear from them after one day, I’d be at their door. By day two, the police would be on speed dial. Because when it comes to the people I care about, I don’t take chances.

You know the saying: “It’s better to be safe than sorry.” That’s my mantra when it comes to my circle.

What’s My Point?

Check on your friends. Every day.

It doesn’t take much to shoot a quick text, make a phone call, or pop by just to say, “Hey, you good?” Those small gestures could make all the difference. You never know what someone is going through—or when your check-in could be the lifeline they need.

Let’s stop normalizing distant, inactive friendships and start prioritizing the people we love. Life is too fragile, too unpredictable, to wait.

So, go ahead: send that text, make that call. Be the friend you’d want someone to be for you.

đź‘‘ Sheba

If Your Future Self Could Speak: What Would It Say?

As we navigate life, it’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily routines. We often forget to pause and reflect on our actions and choices. Today, let’s explore a thought-provoking question: If your future self has to rely on what you’re doing now, would it be enough?

The Power of Reflection

Imagine waking up ten years from now. You look around and see the life you’ve built. Are you proud of what you see? Or do you feel a sense of regret for not taking action when you had the chance? This is where reflection comes into play. It’s crucial to assess whether our current habits, decisions, and goals align with our desired future.

Change can be daunting, but it’s also necessary for growth. It’s important to remember that every small step counts.

Consider the thrill of trying something new—whether it’s a new hobby, a different career path, or even a lifestyle change. Each choice can lead to exciting adventures and connections that enrich your life. Imagine the possibilities: meeting new people who inspire you, discovering hidden talents, or even finding love in unexpected places.

Passion is a powerful motivator that can transform your life. When you engage in activities that excite you, it often leads to greater fulfillment and happiness. Think about what makes your heart race—whether it’s painting a canvas, exploring new cultures through travel, experimenting with flavors in the kitchen, or pouring your thoughts onto the page in writing. By prioritizing these passions today, you are not just indulging in fleeting pleasures; you are actively shaping the life you want for your future self. When you invest in what excites you now, you’re not only enhancing your current happiness but also laying down a roadmap for a future filled with purpose and joy. Your future self will thank you for having the courage to follow your heart, knowing that those choices have led to a life rich with memories, connections, and personal growth. 

A Steamy Perspective

Now, let’s add a little spice to this reflection. Consider how the choices you make today can impact not just your career or hobbies but also your relationships. Are you nurturing the connections that matter most? Are you open to exploring new dynamics in your personal life?

Imagine investing time in deepening your relationships—whether romantic or platonic. Picture those late-night conversations that linger long after the sun sets or spontaneous adventures that leave you breathless with excitement. These moments become the fabric of your future memories.

Moreover, think about how embracing vulnerability can lead to deeper connections. Allowing yourself to be open and authentic can create an environment where love and trust flourish. Your future self will cherish these bonds, knowing they were built on honesty and shared experiences.

Consider the story of Ivah, who was once an avid gamer but felt unfulfilled in her career. She realized that her passion for gaming could translate into something more meaningful—game design! Ivah enrolled in online courses while working full-time and gradually built a portfolio. Today, she works for a leading game development company and loves what she does.

This reminds us that our current actions shape our futures. By embracing change and pursuing our passions, we can create lives that reflect who we truly are.

Conclusion: A Call to Action

So, I ask you again: If your future self has to rely on what you’re doing now, would it be enough? Take this moment as an opportunity to reflect on your choices and consider what steps you can take today for a brighter tomorrow.

Remember that every journey begins with a single step. Whether it’s pursuing a dream job, starting a new hobby, or focusing on personal growth—your future self will thank you for the efforts you make today.

Let’s commit to living intentionally so that when we look back in years to come, we can say with confidence: “Yes, I did enough.”

What will your first step be?

God can afford everything!

The Abundance of God’s Provision

A Lighthearted Revelation

Recently, during a heartfelt discussion with my mom, she shared a simple yet profound statement: “God can afford everything!” At first, I chuckled at the casualness of it, but as I reflected, it resonated deeply with me. This statement encapsulates a powerful truth that many of us often overlook in our daily lives.

In today’s world, it’s easy to become entangled in the mindset of struggle. Many people feel trapped in a cycle of scarcity and hardship, believing that these challenges define their past, present, and future. However, I want to encourage you to break free from this limiting belief. Life does not have to be a constant battle against financial woes or emotional burdens.While I appreciate a good deal as much as anyone else, it’s crucial to recognize that our pursuit of bargains should never overshadow our understanding of God’s abundant provision. The reality is that God owns everything. This truth serves as a reminder that trust is the foundation of any relationship, including our relationship with God.

Trusting in God’s Abundance

To truly believe that God can take care of us, we must first trust in His ability and capacity. Have you ever considered the fact that God doesn’t need to shop at your local discount or bargain store? He operates on an entirely different level—one of infinite resources and boundless love.Yes, I said everything! From the smallest needs to the grandest desires, God has the capacity to meet them all. This is not just a theological concept; it’s a practical truth that can transform how we approach our lives.

I invite you to empower yourself by trusting God for your life—your needs and wants. Embrace the idea that He is capable of providing for you beyond what you can imagine. It’s time to commit to being fully persuaded of who He is and what He can do in your life.After all, He can afford everything!

Scriptural Foundation

In Matthew 6:28-33, we are reminded not to worry about our needs because our Heavenly Father knows what we require even before we ask. This passage encourages us to seek first His kingdom and righteousness, assuring us that all these things will be added unto us.Let this truth sink in: when we place our trust in God’s provision and prioritize our relationship with Him, we open ourselves up to a life filled with abundance rather than scarcity. Embrace this mindset shift today and watch how it transforms your perspective on life!

I’m Blessed

 

Recently I had a conversation with someone who made an interesting comment about being blessed. The person said, “Hopefully, the Lord blesses me so that I am able to do a few things.”

Although I understood the sentiment, the God-presence in me, wanted to be sure to use this as a teachable moment. I have to admit I have a strong passion for bringing spiritual clarity and truth to the power of our words. What we say matters, and in most cases, it also reflects what we believe about God and ourselves. Please do not tell me you were just joking. Words have a huge spiritual impact.

Okay, so back to the story.

Immediately, I said, “Hold up!” As you can imagine, the mean side-eye and eyebrow raised. The word of God is clear that we are blessed because God spoke it. He declared it over our lives and then painted a picture of what some manifestations of His blessings can look like.

A prime example of this is in Matthew 5, we have known this to be the Beatitudes. In the eight examples of being blessed, possessions were not mentioned one time. What does that tell us?

It tells us that being blessed is first a declaration from God. We can have absolutely nothing, but because God said we are blessed, that is the bottom line. What He says, is what goes.

You may be a person reading this with a bank account in the negative but my friend, I want you to know that as a follower of Jesus Christ, you are blessed.

Please do not misunderstand what I am saying, God wants us to have possessions, He absolutely wants us to live a wonderful life. Take a look at Abraham. Genesis 22 mentions God speaking words of affirmation to Abraham, He said I will bless you and multiply you. Multiplication is an outcome of being blessed! Thank you, Jesus!

Whenever you have the time to read the scripture, take a look at it. The first area where God multiplied Abraham was in his offspring, those to who he was connected; his relationships.

Are you seeing this? Having good relationships is a result of being blessed. This is powerful!

My point: You are already blessed!

Now it is time for you to pray that the Lord multiplies you in every area of your life.

đź‘‘ Sheba

Seedtime And Harvest Time

I dropped my daughters off at school and then proceeded to walk home. This is my normal routine. As I walked, the scripture Genesis 8:22 came to me. It says, “As long as the earth endures, seedtime and harvest, cold and hot, summer and winter, day and night will never cease. The part that jumped out to me was the seed time and harvest. But it is not for typical reasons. There are times in our lives when we feel like we are giving, giving, and giving some more, but not receiving anything in return. Some have subscribed to the demand of reciprocity; if that is lacking, they walk away or fall back. They believe that if they are not receiving anything in return, then they should not give. Although I empathize with that sentiment because I understand its origin, it is carnal. It opposes the word of God. 

The Bible makes it very clear in this scripture that there is a time for everything, including the time to plant seeds even when there will be no immediate return. To make this point even clearer, know that seed time is not harvest time. There may be times in life when you are sowing seeds, or in more practical terms, you are giving and giving and giving some more. Yes! You are exhausted from giving but that is what happens during that season. On the other end, the good news is that the season does not last forever. 

Harvest time is coming! Let me remind you of this truth, as long as the earth endures, there will be harvest time as well. Now, let us take a deep dive into what that season looks like in case you need practical reinforcement. Have you ever had an experience where you were so overwhelmed by the generosity of others? You may have received gift after gift; someone sent you groceries or did something nice for your children. These gestures denote the season has changed. Harvest time is here!

In Nigeria, my second home, they say Christmas is not every day. The purpose of this is for you to understand transitions and seasonal shifts. If you are not careful, you can miss it. I want to encourage you, to just keep giving if you are in your seedtime season but if you are in your harvest time season, keep receiving. You deserve it. If you struggle with receiving, you want to work on it. One thing you never want to do is sabotage your blessings. Why? Because you put in the seeds, you did the sowing, you did the giving, it is just a matter of time before you experience the season that comes right after that, which is harvest time. 

Peace.

đź‘‘SHEBA